Agree or Disagree

"You have too many guy friends. People assume you are attached that is part of the reason why you are still single now."

I disagree. If those guy friends of mine are the reason I am not attached, then I would rather be alone all my life. At least whenever I need someone to talk to, they will always be around. At least they are not as gossipy and petty as the girls. At least there will never be any hard feelings between us. Recently, I hanged around with a group of friends whom I don't use to hang out with. People who come with a neutral point of view will find them to be ridiculous and irrational. At certain points in time, I find it so too. However, we are all young once only and that's the way life should be. We play tennis together and then halfway through, it started raining. We attempted to continue with another set but the rain mimicked the flow of a tap. Once we retreated, the rain drops diminish. Yet when we were getting ready to go for another set, it was as though the sky tap was opened and the droplets came splashing down again. Nonetheless, it was fun still. Who says drinking takes place only at night? When heaven plays tricks on you, you have no choice but to drink baileys with a weird mixer and make the output taste like "珍珠奶茶". I can't deny that was a relaxed way of life, as though I was in Stockholm, deja vu.! After you get sick of the TV show, filled your stomach, the 4 of you can then gather together and play another round of mahjong.! Lol. I bidded "Monday Blues" GOODBYE! And of course, they are definitely friends worth keeping because I believe they will go through the ups and downs, the rough and smooth patches of life, digging at each other's sorrows or offering a nice COLD BEER. :) I am glad I am brought into the little clique of theirs.!

“A smart and rich girl who have good looks is always attached." (Of course I'm not referring to myself though I'd love to! Lol!)

I realise guys also have the opinion that if a girl is pretty or smart or this or that, she must be attached. Frequently, it's just assumptions and deductions of their own or because they do not want to be rejected by the girl to have their ego bruised. But girls who are smart know how to pretend to be stupid so they should have an edge and higher probability of getting hitched compared to girls who are silly because they cannot pretend to be an intellect.

"Friends should never have any conflict of interest. Smart people should cut the act of being cooperative with latent intentions of competing with another."

I was totally taken aback when I stepped into the class today to see all the Honors Year student one cohort before mine sharing their assignment answers. They are scary. And, the reason of being so, they do not want to lose to their peers so they want to make sure they all derived the answer. If one makes a mistake, all made the mistake. Honestly, between my peers and I, though we discuss about our academic studies, we do not actually disclose our CAP and stuff. Not that I do not want to tell them or that I desperately need them to know, but I think it's unnecessary. If they do ask me, I'll them but if they don't, I don't see the need to amplify. Likewise for them, I never know nor question their CAP either. This is what I called mutual trust.

Imagine you walk into a class for the first day and everyone in the class knows your CAP, your academic results, whether you are a Dean's lister or not and stuff. They end up being your friends but so what? Are their intentions kind? Not that I am suspicious or that I have little trust in other people, but I believe in making friends with only people who are sincere in being friends with you despite your reputation, wealth, achievements etc. I am in my 3rd year in NUS but officially I am year 4. Those in their 4th year of studies and am official year 4 students are crazy people. In their batch, almost everyone knows each other's CAP and they know who are the first-class graduates, who are second and etc. Reason?! I don't know. So they know who their competitors are etc. I do not concur with this kind of behaviour though I know hanging around smart people increases work efficiency because you can learn from them and make them do the work. But, it's definitely a NONO for me!

People who know me would know that I am someone who loves making new friends all the time but in NUS, and especially in my Honors class, I only hang out one or two friends. I do not want to be acquainted with all these competitive classmates. It's like they are competitive and they will want to compete with me. And me, having seen someone competing damn hard with me will be unable to control my emotions and the evil side of me will take control and I'll start competing with him or her too. Any form of competition damages relationship to a certain extent. It results in conflict of interests and I hate to lose friendship out of conflict of interests. Thus, I rather not make new friends. As in I hate people to see me as a benchmark, be it positive or negative, meaning they want to be better than me or they do not want to be a loser like me. It is childish. Don't you think so?

I like the freedom of being a human being, to be able to use my senses to judge myself and things in life, but not people. I enjoy the privilege to pursue what I want and be an unique individual. Thus, when I see people mimicking my style, my achievements, my habits, my lifestyle, my actions, my speech or any part of me, I feel exasperated. Not that I think am such a good role model that people look upon but even between friends, I hate to be copied. So, THAT'S ME! :))